The worst part about the appointment I had with my oncologist, beyond the fact that I have an oncologist which still seems surreal, was not going over the pathology results. Nor was it setting up the schedule for radiation which will run Mondays to Fridays for twenty-six sessions. The worst part was getting weighed. Which tells you a lot, really, about eating disorders and how … Continue reading Cancer and an eating disorder.
I hate confrontations in an incredibly, big-time way. I’ll do almost anything to avoid them, usually to my detriment. I don’t stand up for myself: I don’t share my feelings if I’ve been hurt. I’m determined not to rock the boat. It’s not a policy that works well. For me, at any rate. It works fine for the people I don’t challenge. And because I … Continue reading Confrontation and motivation.
“Do the best you can.” “Make the most of your time.” “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” (Einstein) “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” (Mother Theresa) Platitudes and inspirational quotes are everywhere. They populate threads. They show up on billboards. They’re used to sell soft drinks. They … Continue reading Soundbite acquisition.
Perspective is a good thing. It can facilitate conversations. It can help stave off arguments and keep anger in check. It encourages understanding. Perspective gives insight. But sometimes, having perspective can be problematic. Understanding the other person’s point of view can sometimes impede the drawing of necessary lines. You “get” them. You understand their feelings so you don’t stand for yourself or push disagreement; you … Continue reading Cursed with perspective.
From Famine to Feast 