Serious thoughts about your relationship with yourself.

I don’t spend much time thinking about the quality of the relationship I have with myself. I’m just there. I don’t think I’m uncommon. We’re not taught to spend time on the relationship with have with ourselves, to analyze and improve it. Which is strange, when you consider its duration. Too many of us are …

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I should probably want to quit smoking.

I’m trying to quit smoking. And by trying, I mean I think about quitting smoking, but I don’t do much beyond cutting back a bit. If it gets uncomfortable, I go back to previously established levels. A favourite quote of mine is, “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” A good corollary would be, “Nothing changes if you don’t really want change.”...

Say “I love you” to yourself.

I recently started rereading The Art of Extreme Self-care by Cheryl Richardson. I originally bought it a couple of years ago. I read it cover to cover, took notes, highlighted various passages, and implemented nothing. Change is hard and positive change can be particularly challenging to implement. We cling to our default settings with our dying grasp, even when they’re doing us harm...