Once upon a time, someone told me I was a calming presence, that I was soothing and restful to be around. I was very flattered, especially considering the chaotic nature of my inside life. My brain is many things, but it’s not restful. She was referring to the fact that I’m not especially reactive to people or things when I’m out and about. My responses … Continue reading My Dog, the Mirror
I’ve not been a “go with the flow” kind of person for most of my life, for all that I can be impulsive. I plan the days and weeks though not in a goal and growth-oriented kind of day. This is about making sure I know what to do with my time. I was about making sure that my life was one of order and … Continue reading A More Bohemian Next Act.
I’ve too much to say and nothing to say at the exact same time. I’m full of feelings and empty as well. I’m going through the motions, but everything feels a little bit false, and a little bit empty. I feel like I’m trapped in amber, separated from the world and her brother, and unable to escape. I want to emerge and connect again in … Continue reading Pets and Purpose
Good boundaries. I didn’t grow up with good boundaries. There are reasons for that: My mother wasn’t allowed boundaries as a child, so we weren’t raised with great ones. You can’t teach what you don’t know; I came of age in the 1980s – women and children having boundaries was still pretty frowned upon; I experienced child sexual abuse. There are many negative consequences to … Continue reading We Need Roots, Wings, and Boundaries.
