I have good instincts when it comes to people. Would that I had listened to them for much of my life. I think my good instincts are partly due to being neurodivergent. I’m HSP – a highly sensitive person. We take in a lot of information from the world around us. It’s less useful than you might imagine, especially if you don’t lean towards manipulations. … Continue reading Instincts and Boundaries Are A Great Match
Communication and connection are hard, and one method people use to circumvent the awkwardness that comes with meeting someone new—unless you’re one of those people like my father who talks up a storm with everyone about everything, in which case, good for you—is with small talk. Most of us have a line of benign and inconsequential chatter we rely on when meeting new people or … Continue reading What Do You Do?
Good boundaries. I didn’t grow up with good boundaries. There are reasons for that: My son, on the other hand, has great boundaries. He has great boundaries for the same reason he’s not frightened of spiders – I raised him that way. Teaching him to have good boundaries was a deliberate act. We all want our children to have what we didn’t. By the time … Continue reading We Need Roots, Wings, and Boundaries.
Your birthday is an anniversary. Did you know that? You only have one original birthday, unless strange things are afoot. Every year after that first entry is a revisit. I don’t mind a revisit. I’m not someone who gives up on birthdays. I like celebrating the good things: hit me. I’m less a fan of remembered misery, but anniversaries show up there too. I’m lousy … Continue reading Everyone loves an anniversary, and by “everyone,” I mean me.
From Famine to Feast. 