Good boundaries. I didn’t grow up with good boundaries. There are reasons for that: My mother wasn’t allowed boundaries as a child, so we weren’t raised with great ones. You can’t teach what you don’t know; I came of age in the 1980s – women and children having boundaries was still pretty frowned upon; I experienced child sexual abuse. There are many negative consequences to … Continue reading We Need Roots, Wings, and Boundaries.
I haven’t had a vacation I’ve not had a real vacation since before 2019. In fact, my last real vacation was my aborted attempt at a solo trip to Mazatlan. It didn’t end particularly well. There was a weekend up to Salmon Arm with my friendly acquaintances in the summer of 2022, although my memories of that one are tainted by my discovery that I … Continue reading Weekday getaways with a side of anxiety – an off-the-cuff joint.
I like to read. I’ve always liked to read, and I read a lot. Even these days, when my brain is tired, and most of the book reading is rereading, I read a lot. Several hours are spent on it every day, and no, I’m not including the reading one does while death-scrolling through social media. I read sections of several newspapers every day. I … Continue reading Anecdotes, trivia, and Clavin – an off-the-cuff joint.
I don’t do all that well in groups, especially in groups I arrive at after-the-fact. This is as true of friendship as it is of the workspace. You can break into established groups, but because you’re late to the party, you have to play by their rules for a while even if you disagree with them. I’m not wired that way. People used to ask … Continue reading I’m not hierarchical – an off-the-cuff joint.
