If “ought to” was easy.

Wouldn’t it be nice if “ought to” was easy? Wouldn’t it be cool if we defaulted to health and life-enhancing behaviours? There are people out there who do; I read about them and see their inspirational memes all the time. They are my goal; I would love it my default setting was life-affirming. Unfortunately, when things get tough for me, I tend to do two things: withdraw from the world, and engage in harmful behaviours. This is not a winning philosophy...

Consumer capitalism.

I don’t like consumer capitalism. I don’t understand it in great detail, what I do know are these two things: it requires the ceaseless pursuit of more and it doesn’t make people happy. I realized that our consumption-based system was somewhat broken and dysfunctional a while back. I have become concerned with how much value and status we place on stuff. But I didn’t realize until sitting on the porch today that consumer goods themselves are not only ridiculous but structured to be inherently hierarchical. It’s not enough to buy stuff. You always have to be striving for the better, more expensive stuff. It is, after all, how worth is to a great degree is judged...

Is it selfish?

People like to call you selfish when you aren’t doing what they want. It causes a conundrum. You need to think of yourself, to take care of yourself, but when does doing so cross the line into selfishness? When do you get to put yourself first? It’s a question I’ve been struggling with...

Take a breath.

I was lying in bed the other morning, not sleeping but also not eager to face the day, when I heard thumps coming from the other room. After some internal debate, I decided it probably wasn’t zombies and got up. I expected to find my cat doing something she ought not to be doing, knocking over plants, perhaps. Imagine my surprise when it turned out to be a small bird – a Toey – bashing itself on the window in a frantic attempt to escape. Poor, desperate, little thing...