Recovery, philosophy, mental health, things that interest me, and random poetry.
Perspective is a good thing. It can facilitate conversations. It can help stave off arguments and keep anger in check. It encourages understanding. Perspective gives insight. But sometimes, having perspective can be problematic. Understanding the other person’s point of view can sometimes impede the drawing of necessary lines. You “get” them. You understand their feelings …
The longer you’ve had your eating disorder, the harder it is to change the way you think. This is not to say you can’t recover. It just means that the incredibly hard business of changing what you do is only the beginning. Fixing broken thinking patterns is where the real work lies. If you can’t …
Continue reading The rise of the eating disorder brain, part 7,294.
“Be yourself. People don’t have to like you and you don’t have to care.” - A random and anonymous quote I stumbled across recently on social media. This is great advice. There are two problems with it. We don’t always know who we are, and we absolutely care what other people think a great deal …
Continue reading It's hard to be yourself; it's hard to not care.
I write about my neuroses for several reasons. The first is, write what you know. I’ve spent a lot of time with myself. We’re intimately acquainted. I also write to understand. The more you think about something, the more you come to know it. The more you know, the better you are equipped to fight. …
I find it frustrating that the things not in my control, aren’t in my control. If they were, it would make life so much easier. If I could just control all the random. If I could just control other people. If I could just control my body. Then life would be perfect. Everything would be …
Everything I know about parenting I learned from McDonald’s. Okay, not everything, but I did learn some important things. “Time to lean, time to clean” for instance. Cleaning as you go is better than trying to fit in an attic to basement extravaganza. The latter never happens when you have young kids. Also, be organized. …
Continue reading Everything I know about parenting, I learned from McDonald's.
I’ve been thinking about my “who’s driving the bus” life analogy. It’s been on my mind because my bus is missing. That’s not symbolism, it’s a literal thing. The bus has left the building, or at least my office. The bus analogy is basically this: our lives are a bus ride. Life is better if …
