Serious thoughts about your relationship with yourself.

I don’t spend much time thinking about the quality of the relationship I have with myself. I’m just there. I don’t think I’m uncommon. We’re not taught to spend time on the relationship with have with ourselves, to analyze and improve it. Which is strange, when you consider its duration. Too many of us are …

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Cancer and an eating disorder.

The worst part about the appointment I had with my oncologist, beyond the fact that I have an oncologist which still seems surreal, was not going over the pathology results. Nor was it setting up the schedule for radiation which will run Mondays to Fridays for twenty-six sessions. The worst part was getting weighed. Which …

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Soundbite acquisition.

“Do the best you can.” “Make the most of your time.” “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” (Einstein) “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” (Mother Theresa) Platitudes and inspirational quotes are everywhere. They populate threads. They show …

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Cursed with perspective.

Perspective is a good thing. It can facilitate conversations. It can help stave off arguments and keep anger in check. It encourages understanding. Perspective gives insight. But sometimes, having perspective can be problematic. Understanding the other person’s point of view can sometimes impede the drawing of necessary lines. You “get” them. You understand their feelings …

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The rise of the eating disorder brain, part 7,294.

The longer you’ve had your eating disorder, the harder it is to change the way you think. This is not to say you can’t recover. It just means that the incredibly hard business of changing what you do is only the beginning. Fixing broken thinking patterns is where the real work lies. If you can’t …

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